Seeking Change

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. Romans 12:2

Unfortunately, many people are at a point of desperation in their marriage. A husband recently said to me, “I don’t know what else to do. I find my love feelings for my wife dying and being replaced by pity and anger. I want to respect her. I want to love her. I want to help her, but I don’t know how.” Thousands can identify with the constant frustration of living with a difficult or irresponsible spouse.

Is there hope? Yes, and it begins with you. You must first of all adopt a positive attitude. This husband is doing what most of us do by nature: He is focusing on the problem rather than on the solution. There are scores of steps he can take, but they require a positive attitude.

First, he must agree that God is still in the business of changing lives. Romans 12:2 reminds us that God can transform us from the inside out. If we turn to God, he can change our thinking, which in turn will change our patterns of acting. There is hope. This husband must pray, “Father, I know there is an answer to our problems. Please show me the next step.” This focus on seeking solutions will lead him to answers.

PRAYER
Lord, I believe that you can transform lives. I trust that you want my relationship with my spouse to be restored. Please show me what to do next.