Getting to Know You

O Lord, you have searched me and you know me. You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar. Psalm 139:1-2 (NIV)

Psalm 139 makes clear that God knows our every thought and even our words before we speak them. The Lord knows us—effortlessly—better than we know ourselves. But it takes effort for a man and woman to know each other. Do you see then why communication is an absolute necessity if we are to understand our spouse?

We cannot know our spouse’s thoughts, feelings, or desires unless he or she chooses to tell us and we choose to listen. That is why a daily sharing time is so important in a marriage. We cannot develop a sense of “togetherness” unless we talk regularly with each other.

A daily sharing time is a time set aside each day for the purpose of talking and listening. If you’re unsure what to talk about, try this: “Tell me three things that happened in your life today and how you feel about them.” It can start with ten minutes and may extend to thirty or longer. The key is not the length but the consistency. I have never seen a truly successful marriage that did not make time for communication.

PRAYER
Father, I’m grateful that you know us inside and out. Help us to open ourselves to each other so we may grow in intimacy. Increase our oneness, Lord, we pray.