Wisdom for Husbands

Husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. Ephesians 5:28

Want to have a more loving wife? Before criticizing her for all her faults, remember that criticism rarely works to effect positive change. But here are some ideas that do.

First, find something you like about her and express your appreciation. Do it again two days later, and then do it again. When you develop a pattern of compliments, you may be pleasantly surprised with the results.

Second, speak kindly. Don’t allow your emotions to dictate your tone of voice. If you have something to say, even if it involves negative feelings, say it as kindly as possible. Remember that the Bible says, “A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare” (Proverbs 15:1). Don’t stir up anger unnecessarily.

Third, don’t give orders. Demands create resentment. Instead of saying, “I want this done today,” try asking, “Is there any chance that you could work this into your schedule today? I’d really appreciate it if you can.” The way you talk to your wife makes all the difference in the world.

Above all, remember that your responsibility is to love your wife as you love your own body. That means caring for her and treating her respectfully, no matter how she acts or how she responds to you. Let love be your goal, and everything else will fall into place.

PRAYER
Father, loving my wife as I love my own body is a huge challenge that sometimes seems insurmountable. I want to learn more about how to do that. Please help me grow in the way I treat my wife, so that our marriage may become stronger and more intimate.